she was also taking care of her mother and mother-in-law and raising her sons and being part of her town, Litchfield. Remember that ugly neighbor who shot their dog? How ugly and awful. On the other hand, she spoke well of the town in general.
Didn't know all that. Must have been while I was busy doing real life. My sister has that life issue. When her kids were little, she stayed home, and did daycare for the Petroleum Wives Club (lots of rich oil people in her neighborhood.)
Then when the kids were in school, she finished college, had a job, but was the backup caregiver for my son, who was mentally ill and always in trouble with school, the law or institutionalized.
As soon as we got past that she became a caregiver for my Dad (helping Mom 40 miles away, Mom wouldn't let me help) and when Dad passed being Mom's caregiver. The day we buried Mom, her father-in-law died so she then became the caregiver for her mother-in-law (keeping her in her house and holding down a full time job). The mother-in-law just passed on this year, so my sister has been doing this for over a decade.
But now my husband has dementia and I struggle with that having problems diabetes, and severe arthritis so sometimes I need to depend on her too because my son is a mentally ill homeless person, and my brother lives 100 miles away.
So I know the life and can understand burnout. For that matter between my son and my husband I have been a caregiver for 26 years and usually the caregiver passes on before the person they are caring for. I worry about my baby sister doing that.
Seems like a pretty heroic life Jane has been living.